Your man has just gotten down on one knee and said those four words you’ve been itching to hear… “Will you marry me?” Now you’re probably crying, laughing, jumping up and down, and staring at that gorgeous rock that just made itself at home on your finger. You’re ENGAGED, lady! I was just standing in those “newly engaged” shoes five months ago so it is all very fresh for this girl. As I reflect back on those first few moments and days of our engagement here are five “tips” and ideas for you to think about.
1. Call your family and close friends.
This one may seem like a no brainer, but with social media right at our fingertips it is easy to get caught up in the excitement and change your relationship status on Facebook before calling your Great-Aunt Sue and sharing the news with her. And your Great-Aunt Sue might be upset to get the news via Facebook. So, before you get to posting your newly engaged bliss all over Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook be sure that you call or visit those who would really want to hear the exciting news from you!
2. Determine the size of your guest list.
No, you don’t need to have a completed guest list right off the bat, but it would be a great idea to have an approximation when it comes to how many guests will be in attendance. I knew before we were even engaged that we would have a small, family wedding of 80-100 guests, so I would have to be very careful about how and when I discussed our upcoming wedding. It was helpful to me to know what size of a wedding we would be having so I wouldn’t chat about it too much with old friends and acquaintances that wouldn’t be invited. It is always good to have a “gentle” way to talk about hard things like this when you’re newly engaged!
3. Consider all of your date options.
It is easy to be caught up in your “dream” wedding as you begin to plan right after he pops the question. While I always dreamed of a Fall wedding, it wasn’t the best option for us, so I had to let go a little bit and look at some other dates that would work best for us and our families. Don’t get too caught up in seasons because you may find out that a Summer wedding works out perfectly while your “dream” is a Winter wedding. Remember that no matter if it is Fall, Winter, Spring, or Summer you will be marrying your groom and that is ultimately all that matters! Also, don’t forget to consider Friday and Sunday weddings, too! Some (not all) venues and vendors cut prices for weddings that aren’t on Saturday’s so not only may it be better for your schedule, but it could cut costs in the budget, as well.
4. Don’t overwhelm your groom!
It takes a girl about .5 seconds after being newly engaged to have a million thoughts, opinions, and questions about the wedding. If you are anything like me, you could talk wedding any day, any time and the thoughts never stop coming! However, your groom probably doesn’t obsess over every tiny detail like you and can be very overwhelmed by all the wedding talk! While it is important to keep your groom involved, it is also important to take time away from wedding planning to just be a couple. Take a date night out or watch a movie in and don’t talk about the wedding! You’ll be surprised how refreshing it is to take a break from all the planning every once in a while.
And last but not least…
5. Get a manicure.
You are about to start showing off that shiny piece of jewelry on your left ring finger so treat yourself to a manicure! You are about to be knee deep in planning and celebrating so take a few minutes and relax in your manicurist’s chair and get those nails ready for all those excited friends and family to see!
Those are five of the best “tips” I could give any gal who is newly engaged! Are there any of these that you completely agree with? Is there something that I should add to the list? Leave your thoughts in the comment section below! We always love to hear from you!
Hold tight to love.
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